it’s hotter than the hinges of Hell and I only want to wear dusters. Goes without saying, they’re not work appropriate. I’ve mentioned before that Target has totally bitten off Free People at like a quarter of the price, but they need better photographers. This top looks so much better in person. It is see-through (eyelet!) but a light came works. I ordered off the site as larger sizes disappear from my store at the speed of light. I love that the lace goes all the way around. It looks like a $100 top for only $27.99.
Of late there’s been a lot of talk about missing teens and the fact that they’re most often categorized as “runaways.” Some people see this term as pejorative or dismissive. It’s apparent that many people visualize Opie with a bundle and stick over his shoulder in Mayberry when it should be apparent that a runaway can be in as much danger as a child who has been abducted.
I tried to explain this to a group on Facebook, but when I tried to explain that most of the missing girls in D.C. are runaways they accused me of being dismissive. Nothing is further from the truth, but when they claimed that the states get $72,000 per child, I quickly realized they had no idea what they were talking about and moved on. More the fool I, given that I swore no more arguing with folk on social media. I’m too old for that crap. So, I’m posting this here from the perspective of someone who has professional experience with this population.
For the sake of clarity I’m going to hit a few random bullets of issues that come up repeatedly when this discussion is occurring. Since my area of expertise is teenagers, I’ll limit this post to them. Younger children are a whole other discussion.
- Amber Alerts can ONLY be issued when there’s evidence that a child has been abducted. They’re not issued every time a child goes missing, there are criteria to be met. This is skewed more toward younger kids, because they’re unlikely to decamp of their own accord.
- Some states will not take a missing persons report on people over a certain age (this varies depending on state) unless there’s evidence that the person did not leave on their own.
- Generally missing teens are found within 24/48 hours usually with friends or family members.
In general, children do not run away from stable, safe environments. With chronic runaways there’s almost always some type of abuse occurring in the home. Of course, there are exceptions, but kids don’t run for no reason.
Most of the time if a teen girl is missing there’s a male, usually an adult involved. Girls run away more than boys, probably because of being lured by men. Boys don’t run as often, but when they do, they run farther and it can be more random. This is especially true of white males.
So, as you can see there’s certainly plenty of danger involved when a child runs away. It’s nothing something to dismiss, which is why I think we should consider using the term “lured away,” at least when we know or suspect that a child might have been targeted, and almost all of them are. If not initially, certainly within hours or days of being on the street. It’s so pervasive that these predators will actually set up “shop” near group homes so they can prey on girls in foster care.
And that’s another issue that must be acknowledged, most of the teens who do go missing in this country are in foster care. Law enforcement generally can’t mention that because of HIPAA regulations. Foster care is literally a bullet train into commercial rape for many young girls. This goes back to a post I made a while back about sex trafficking and how prevalent it is.
Now that I’ve depressed you out of your mind, I can think of certain measures we can take to address these issues.
- Strengthen families and provide services and support to keep children in intact homes.
- If children do have to leave their families of origin work hard to maintain a “kin first” model.
- Provide support to our foster care system so we can have more and better foster homes so children don’t have to go in group homes.
- Use better terminology liked “lured away,” and carefully explain the dangers of the street to people so they understand runaway is not a trivial issue.
One of my fave things for lunch is a nice big salad and this one is delicious. But I noticed something today. This salad with a few ounces of salmon on it costs $3.00 more than a similar salad with fried chicken on it. This is why I get so pissed when people claim eating healthy doesn’t cost more. Oh yes it does and that’s why it’s such a status symbol. Back in the day folk took pride in being fat because it was a symbol of wealth. With so many struggling to get enough food to stay alive, eating to excess meant you could afford to eat “high on the hog.” So to speak. Now, of course it’s the exact opposite. Healthy nutritious food is priced well out of range for many, and then they’re disparaged for their poor diets.
This is frozen salmon, probably farm-raised based on its color. There is no legitimate reasons that a few ounces of salmon should cost this much more than chicken, especially when you consider frying chicken is far more labor intensive than broiling some fish.
Yeah, I know, not exactly an inspired way to start a story, but seriously, it did start that way and there’s no point in lying. By now y’all know how I shop. I find something I love, then find something similar in a price that sane people would pay.
This shower curtain right here is the exact shower curtain I wanted. It’s Ruan Hoffman. I love his pottery like damn and whoa. And, I don’t have to tell you what store it was in. Is there any other store for me? Anthropologie, of course. (I really need to get a job at that place). And I don’t have to tell you the rest of the story, it’s a $100 shower curtain. Here’s the thing, I have never in my life seen a shower curtain I love more than this one, and nothing similar has done it for me, so yes, I bought a $100 shower curtain. (Believe it or not, they have shower curtains that cost TWICE as much) and I’m not even ashamed. I look at that curtain every day and it makes me HAPPY! HAPPY! HAPPY!
And what’s the point of this blog post other than to reify my love and adoration of all things Anthropologie? It’s not always about being frugal or sensible. I don’t indulge often, and am a firm believer in making do, but sometimes you just have to go for it. So there’s your lesson of the day; SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE TO GO FOR IT!!!
I’ve had this picture of Rihanna and Lupita up on my inspiration wall for several years now. It’s the inspiration for the next book in my Pussycat Death Squad series, Diamonds on the River. It’s a caper set in Accra, Ghana featuring a professional poker player/international jewel thief and her computer hacking co-conspirator and member of the Pussycat Death squad. Involving diamonds, of course, but also lithium batteries and Tesla. Now, of course Lupita and Rihanna are tweeting about making this movie happen. Too bad I can’t write the screenplay.
Meet her in the Acts of Wars sneak peek (©2017 Roslyn Hardy Holcomb and Lisa G. Riley) below. You’re going to love her!
“What was it you came over to tell me?” Perish made her way back over to the table and looked at her late grandmother’s friends, Father Mike Clements and Cash Hayes, in turn. “And please, just tell me. I’d like to know before one or both of you gets murdered.”
Again, they both burst into laughter, but Perish didn’t smile as she sat across from them.
“All right, lass. You win, though you could let a couple of old men enjoy the warmth of your hearth and the pleasure of your company for a little bit,” said Father Clements.
Perish squashed the guilt that flared. “Are you going to tell me?”
“How much do you know about your parents?”
Perish frowned. “Only what Grandmother said in…
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