If you’d told me a decade ago that I’d actually be even marginally sympathetic towards polygamy I would’ve laughed hysterically. Its true, I am in dire need of a wife. I told the hubster a while back that I needed a rich husband and he stated that he did too. So maybe all four of us could live together in some type of polyamorous state.
A generation ago, child-rearing was a congregate task. Though mainly relegated to women, typically you had relatives nearby to pitch in. Now that we’re putting child-rearing off until we’re older, a lot of times those relatives are either too old or dead. My son has one grandparent left and she lives in Florida. All other relatives are so busy that you have to make an appointment to see them.
I think this might also be a way to circumvent the ‘mommy track.’ If women who worked outside the home had a back-up mommy to take care of the house and kids they’d be free to pursue their corporate ambitions.
I’m not trying to push my child-rearing responsibilities off on anyone else, but yes, sometimes I need a break. For that matter, so does he. Replacing family with paid childcare is almost impossible. Its too rigid, too structured. I understand there are regulations involved, but it drives me nuts. I know I’d feel more comfortable leaving my child with someone I actually know and live with. Maybe polygamy isn’t the answer, clearly there are problems with that, but I’d really like to explore some type of communal arrangement. What do you think? Have you encountered similar barriers in childrearing?