One of my friends posted this picture on Facebook. The headline speaks for itself, and when I look at this young woman I can’t help but think of Lil Kim, who went from being a pretty black girl to looking like a villain from a Batman movie. There are a million blogs covering this issue, but I don’t comment on other blogs these days, plus when I ask this auestion I get accused of being insensitive, even so, I haven’t seen anyone answer my question, What in the hell happened? I graduated high school in 1982 and yes, I had my romantic catastrophes, but never did it occur to me that my skin color was an issue. I’ve had many angst-plagued relationship discussions with friends of all hues and don’t recall one discussion about this. And lest you think I grew up in some progressive bubble, please recall I’m from North Alabama. Was I just totally blind and missed this, or did someone do a Vulcan mind meld on a helluva lot of colorecd folk? I’d especially like to hear from those of you who are closer to ny age. I’m starting to feel like I’ve awakened in Bizarro World.


3 thoughts on “Colorism?

  1. Like you i grew up in the south a small rural town in Norhern Louisiana I am in my 40’s and i am of a darker hue. I have never felt my darker tone was an issue of who i was nor determined my beauty. It is a part of me that i have always embraced and i thought enhanced my beauty more. For me i believe the type of home i grew up in played a major role in how i saw myself and how i reacted to how others saw me. I am the sixth child out of ten and we all are of different tones me being the darkest i think my parents had an insight on how people on the outside would make a difference between my siblings and me so they went the extra mile to compare my skintone to positive things they never neglected to tell me i was beautiful . Lately there has been so much talk about this subject in a time where we have supposedly progressed so far when it comes to color. Yet this just shows us that we still have a long wat to go. But we see so many things mainstream that makes women of darker complexion seem as though they aren’t beautiful. We see on book covers. there’s hardly any dark skinned women are on the cover, Magazine covers, in moveis you name it there is absolutely no love. So if you are a woman who is already struggling with your self images personally you will by into the hype of society and believe that because your skin is darker you are not beautiful. Therefore you get the results we are looking at today on this magazine cover.

  2. All I can say is, WHAT!!! Did she really do this to herself? She was prettier before. Has society really brain washed women that much that she had to do this to herself? I grew up in Detroit. My family is a rainbow of brown shades. From very light to dark. We don’t care. It’s all about the personality and treating people right. Doing the right thing. I think family has a lot to do with our self esteem as well. If family members teased you because of your color light or dark, weight, hair, etc… You grew up with a complex. I was teased as well because they thought I was light skinned, but I didn’t. I stopped listening to what others said I looked like.
    I guess, I just can’t believe this.


  3. I think I’m about 12 years older than you. What a difference 12 years can make. I remember growing up; calling someone black was grounds to fight. We would compare out skin tones, and declare who was lighter or darker. But James Brown came out, say it loud I’m black and I’m proud. I think that turned it around for a lot of m y friends. We were black—no longer Negro, or colored or n***rs. But we used to use Ambi- skin tone cream, to lighten our dark spots, I had friends who would use it all over their bodies and would swear they were lighter. As we got older I think most of us realized that black was beautiful, that we came in different hues, that we were as beautiful as the rainbow. Somewhere it seems, we’re going backwards. Maybe this generation needs to hear James Brown- Say it Loud I’m black and I’m proud.

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