All over the blogosphere I see black women decrying the colorism of black men. My e-mail box is full of it and it seems to have seriously affected a lot of black women. I saw an episode of Tyra Banks where these women were willing to undergo all manner of gruesome side-effects in order to get lighter. I’ve heard horrific tales about women being rejected for being on the wrong side of the paper bag test. This is not something I personally have been impacted by. I have to assume that it really hit hard with the generation of women who grew up with cable and videos, which is not something I experienced.
Having said all that, I need to ask the burning question: As the mother of a son how can I raise him to not be colorstruck? Don’t get me wrong; being interracially married myself, it would be hypocritical for me to say that I don’t want my son to marry interracially. However, it would break my heart if he selected his partners based solely on their skin color.
Maybe I’ve missed it, but in all the discussions around the blogosphere on this issue, I don’t see anyone talking about this particular aspect. Presumably my son will be just as susceptible to the media images as any other hormonally impacted boy. (Just for the record, he’s already girl crazy as hell, so I’m pretty sure he’s hetero, not that there’s anything wrong with that.)
Has anyone else thought about this? Have any ideas, suggestions, recommendations? For the most part his schools will be pretty diverse, so he should definitely be around a goodly mixture of girls, but other than that, what should we do?